Image via WikipediaJust visited my good friend Dorothy of
Womensselfesteem blogspot. Her last post is about why couples lose interest, or that loving feeling.
It made me think, why?
I am no expert, but picture this, you look at your partner and there is no spark. What do you do, you still love him or her, but the flame is burning mighty low, little or no spark left.
From a man's point of view, or should I say my point of view, boring routine, same thing everyday could be the reason. You get up, you go to work, you come home, you eat, you sleep, you get up, you go to work...blah blah, blah fish paste. You basically live right past each other.
There is no excitement in the relationship anymore, no flame, no spark.
All is not lost, there is a way to get it back. How you ask. Again, this is purely my opinion as a non-expert.
My solution: Go back in time, go back to what you have done those many years ago when you were dating. Start dating again, make appointments, meet each other for a romantic dinner. Example: dress up like you used to when you were still dating, like when you still tried to impress him with your best assets. But do not dress together, dress at different venues, meet each other at the restaurant, or night club, or where ever you used to go when you were younger.
Tip: Do not dress like this...
Rather dress like this:
Or like this....
Be bold, be adventurous, daring, dress to impress, be an eye catcher, kick ass sexy. If you plan to meet at a night club, sit at different tables at first. Make eye contact, flirt, ask him to dance, use your imagination.
Go home in separate cars, the girl first, wait for him, open the door for him dressed like this....
Or like this...
I'll bet my bottom dollar you will have his heart beating at a fast canter, his breath catching in his throat, and soon he will be all over you! And for the next week he will have you, and only you on his mind.....and more than likely planning the next adventure.
Secret to this is, both parties have to be willing. You need to work together, communicate. This is but one example, there are many other, go away for a dirty weekend, make a date by calling him at work and invite him for a romantic dinner, etc, etc.
Bottom line is, get away from the everyday routine and start living again. Bring that adventurous spirit you had as a young couple, back into your relationship. You are only as old as you allow yourself to be. I am turning 50 in a few days, and the spark is still there, we believe that breaking the routine is very important to keep a relationship hot and moving. However, and I think it is important to keep this in mind, it is not always easy, we have two kids, both of us work, just like any other couple, but we make sure that we fit those alone together quality moments into our schedule, even if only once a week.
For the guys I attach an article with a few great tips.
Example: Yolande dressed as a cowgirl for a country and western dance we went to. (We love dancing, and we go dancing quite a lot) Take it from me, a night out dancing always adds fuel to the love flame.
Let us know how you keep the love flame burning high, I am sure you use other ways, share with us.
Take care and enjoy the rest of the week.
